Thirty-six Skills of Knowing People 34: Mantra

'

Mantra is a view of things in people's hearts. It is the mental processing of external information to form a fixed language response model, so that when similar situations occur, it will blur out.

The formation of the mantra is nothing more than two reasons: the impact of major events on people and the result of cumulative effects. When a person encounters the same frustration many times, the accumulation effect will be revealed in his mantra. If you have encountered many times in your life, you can't save yourself, and you are kidnapped, then it is not difficult to understand why there is a mantra of "People nowadays are incomparable to before!".

Mantras are a channel for people's psychological catharsis. Positive mantras urge people to forge ahead, while some mantras have negative connotations. So are these negative-sounding mantras necessarily bad? The answer is no. It is now popular to put the word "depressed" on the lips, is it really depressed and depressed everywhere? In fact, this is just because modern people are under pressure in life and change their mentality quickly. Through such a catch phrase, they can pour out their bitterness. Let the mind have a channel for relaxation and venting, so that it is more beneficial to people's mental health.

As a subconscious manifestation of mantra, it can help us get to know a person. Because the mantra reflects a kind of emotion of people, a kind of mentality of the person at that time, and also indirectly reflects a person's character.

1. "Seriously", "Honestly", "Indeed", "Don't lie to you", "Assure you"

Such people are often eager to make others believe in themselves, and often have a feeling of worry that the other party will misunderstand themselves. Such people are a little impatient and often feel unbalanced in their hearts.

2. "Should", "must", "definitely", "must be", "absolutely", "is it", "is it"

He has strong self-confidence, appears sane, calm, and thinks he can persuade and convince him. On the other hand, when such terms are spoken too much, it reflects a "shaking" mentality. People who have held leadership positions for a long time are also prone to such oral expressions.

3. "I heard", "Said", "Listen to others", "Someone said", "Others said"

The mentality that leaves room for oneself often handles things in a "circular" way. Although such people have broad knowledge, their decisiveness is not enough. There are also people who are slick and easy to use such language.

4. "Maybe so", "Maybe so", "Probably so", "Almost so"

The self-defense instinct is strong and will not fully expose the inner thoughts. Calm in dealing with people, good work and engagement relationships. There is also the meaning of retreat as progress. Once things become clear, they will say: I have estimated this a long time ago. Many people engaged in politics have this kind of verbal rhetoric, which hides their sincerity.

5. "But", "But"

Some willful, so I always put forward one but to defend myself. The word "but" is used to protect oneself. It also reflects the characteristics of mildness, which is euphemistic and not decisive. People engaged in public relations often have this kind of spoken language. Also because of its euphemism, it doesn't make people feel cold.

6. "Ah", "Ah", "This, this", "Uh, uh"

With few vocabulary, or slow thinking, use the habit formed as an intermittent method when speaking. This kind of person is generally slower to respond; there are also proud civil servants who utter such verbal children because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing and need to have some intermittent thinking.